Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Hmm? What?

This has been one crazy month so far, and since it's only halfway over who knows what will happen before October...

I can only assume that there is still a live baby inside of me, although this is mostly based on not thinking about it too much. At my last appointment, my OB cheerfully told me to come back in three weeks and I absolutely freaked out about waiting that long. Here I am, coming up on the weeks that led to the demise of my last pregnancy, and I couldn't imagine why she wouldn't want to monitor me more closely than before. My last ultrasound had been a week before this appointment, and I know that there are a lot of insurance regulations, blah blah blah, but I absolutely cannot wait a month between ultrasounds at this point.

She did agree to see me in two weeks instead of three, but I was hoping for week by week appointments, at least for a while. Maybe that's just not realistic, but I have begun to think about calling in with "pains" of some sort and see if I can get in earlier. The stress alone is bad enough that my insurance will have to pay for more acupuncture and chiropractic appointments if it won't approve extra ultrasounds. Grrr!

In other news, my daughter has started her new fancy private school. This is not the "school for geniuses" here in Los Angeles - that idea just seemed worse and worse the more we found out about it. Neither is it the "hyphenated exclusive prep" school here that was salivating over her test scores. The school we chose is more focused on developing the whole person than creating an academic superstar. Plus, it is close to our house as well as our philosophy. Which is part of our philosophy, actually, in that we didn't want our child on a bus for two hours a day. Part of me is just desperately hoping that I haven't made a giant mistake about this, but my gut feeling was that those other schools would have made us all miserable.

The work itself is just so different from what she's used to that the level of challenge is more about figuring out what the expectations are than just doing the assignments. The homework is posted online, along with the schedules for all of the extracurricular activities and any special events. She has to check rubrics for each assignment to make sure she isn't missing a crucial component. There are honors levels for most classes, and study halls with teachers who take smaller groups of kids and work past the assignments at advanced levels, so I do think she'll be fine as far as being challenged. Far better than last year. Plus, she has to figure out how to change for PE and still make it to science afterwards on the other side of the campus. I think that will be the real challenge, actually.

We're both still trying to figure out how to get to school an hour earlier than we used to. The good news for me is that I don't have to worry about making it to the office on time - now I can even stop at the farmer's market on my way to work. And I'm fine once I'm up and about - but getting out of bed so early is almost impossible. I miss coffee...

5 comments:

Gwynn said...

I remember that time between appointments being some of the most anxiety filed times. (I hadn't even lost a pregnancy at that point.) Especially as the appointment drew closer. I'll be sending positive energy your way that everything is perfectly, averagely (I know, not a word but go with me on this one) fine at your next ultrasound.

It sounds like you guys made the perfect choice for your daughter. I can't wait to hear how the new school works out. (Any week now, I have get my procrastinating butt in gear and start visiting pre-schools.)

Ah, coffee... I too miss it's perky charms!

Claudia said...

Rent a doppler so you can listen to your baby's heartbeat any time you want. It was a real sanity saver with my twin pregnancy. Makes the time between ultrasounds more bearable.

Glad things are going well so far!

Sarah said...

you can see why people are driven to buy the dopplers. wishing you peace through these scary weeks, hope the time flies by uneventfully.

Mad Hatter said...

What a time you are having! The stress of a new school for your daughter (it sounds great, by the way!) and wanting to connect with the life inside you! I would feel the same way as you about needing reassurance...I like your idea od making up a reason to go in...pains? a pulling twisty feeling? hearing what sounds like a marching band inside your belly? Say whatever it takes to get your peace of mind!!

Best When Used By said...

I think the school program you chose sounds wonderful. Even if a child is an intellectual superstar, I don't see any reason to turn them into a freak by getting them to high school by age 10. I like the idea of wholistic development and I'm sure you'll soon be in the swing of your new schedule.

As far as u/s's and hoping the baby is still alive - I'm right there with you. I say well, I'm 13 weeks! Yeah, unless the baby died right after my last u/s. So I totally get that fear, worry and desire for frequent u/s's until I can feel it kick on a daily basis. As your doc if you could do every 2 weeks. Or, as you suggested, ahem....you might have a pain that needs to be investigated.