Wednesday, November 19, 2008


Time is so not flying that I can't believe this is only Wednesday. What happened to those crazy days that run together in a blur? I thought the only reason we all know what "tempus fugit" means is that it's been so true for so long. But - at least for me - tempus dragit is more like it (how's that for five years of Latin?) and I feel as though I will rot and mold before next week even manages to show up.

I have absolutely no symptoms, except for the sore PIO boob effect. No nausea, no dizziness. I am still bloaty and blob-waisted, and I've been exhausted by mid-afternoon for the last few days... I want so badly to take those as actual signs of continued well-being, but I definitely had those problems before my last miscarriage.

I was recently at an appointment with an educational psychologist (to discuss my daughter's ongoing misery at the idea of going to school) and she asked me if I was going to have any more children. I was so unprepared for that question at the time that I'm sure whatever I managed to say had all kinds of odd implications. I think I said something like "Well, you never know...", but honestly I can't remember.

People used to ask me that all the time, back when my daughter was still really young. Now that she's ten I guess it seems obvious that we either can't or don't want to have any others. These days I'm more likely to get comments about the hazards of raising an only child. Which is even worse than the baby questions, because someone may not know that we have infertility issues, but it's certainly clear that we can't go back in time and create siblings.

So, another week will crawl by. I know that the bottom line is that there is no way to second guess any of this. It is what it is. I just hope that it is what I want it to be, too.


Nikki said...

I hope it is what you want it to be too Lorraine! Why does time crawl when you're waiting for something?

Lost in Space said...

I'm hoping the time flies by so you can get some reassurance that your little one is growing strong. Hang in there. Hugs.

Midlife Mommy said...

Me too.

PJ said...

Wow! I'm a really sucky blog friend! I had no idea you were going through this, and you have been so supportive of me. I adore your comments always.

That said, it is incredibly interesting to me to read about how you are coping with all of this, since I may be your shoes a few weeks from now. I've wondered how I much I will let myself feel or react, having gone through one miscarriage now.

I hope, hope, hope, that your positive STAYS and that you see a healthy kicking heart in the ultrasound.

chicklet said...

These are the longest days ever, these waits. Here's hoping - like the rest have said - that it flies by somehow(?).